Couple's therapy can be a challenging, yet highly rewarding experience. From the law of complementarity I often find that the aspect that initially attracts a person to their mate can be the very thing that creates a rift in their relationship as it matures. Whatever is lacking in ourselves we often find in excess in our mate. This may have been attractive to us at the beginning, but as the relationship matures and people grow as individuals a crossroads is often reached. This crossroads can be a time of frustration and possibly the end of a relationship, or it can be a time of individual and relationship growth. If both mates are strong enough to look within themself to see what they are lacking that their mate has in excess, then they can start acting on those differences and develp a balanced relationship. This can be a tremendously rewarding time.
When couples first come in to therapy they often seem to blame their mate for the problems in the relationship. This puts them in a very powerless position for it is impossible to change anyone but ourselves. I point this out to couples and they start making significant shifts once they put the blaming aside and start looking at themselves and how they are contributing to the probelms. If each mate has enough ego strength to do this, then the relationship can start to shift in a positive, growth-oriented way.
It is always an honor for me to help coulples make the shifts they are looking for.
Read my article on Marital Complementarity under "Words of Wisdom; Article by Gale Cleveland